My Website » Blog

Masthead header


What is your job as a wedding planner?

Inspired from OffBeat Bride- Ang Jandak

I perform a service.

Can you do this yourself? Sure, much like you can change your own oil or do your own plumbing. What you pay for is the convenience of having someone else worry about it. That is the very nature of the service industry — all the pretty stuff is just bonus.

I’m a neutral party.

I don’t really care if your Aunt Edna hates my guts because we didn’t use her neighbor’s daughter to make the cupcakes. I have no family feuds to take part in or worry about. No one at your wedding has diapered my bum, so for the most part I am treated like the professional adult I am. On the rare cases where I’m not, I don’t have to worry about so-and-so hating my guts for the next five years. This is a huge weight off of you, because you can feel free to blame everything on the crazy wedding planner. I’m OK with it really, as long as YOU are happy.

I see the big picture.

Lots of times when planning, anyone can become zeroed in on tiny minute details and not see the forest for the trees. “OMG I’ve been so worried about the cake topper I forgot to order the cake!” Since this isn’t my wedding, it isn’t personal to me. Not that I don’t care about your wedding — I DO, because I care about you, and it’s my job — but I can think rationally about all aspects of it.

I’m not a guest.

Your guests should be able to fully immerse themselves in your wedding. I might shed a tear, or two or twenty, but I am there to make sure the caterer is setting the food out, that the DJ is set to go, and that the roller derby cocktail waitresses have their pads on. You don’t have to worry about me having a good time — trust me, I am.

I am your middleman.

I have this wacky thought that couples should enjoy their wedding day. It’s much harder to do when a million people are running up to you with mini catastrophes when all you want to do is soak in the moment of the big ass life change you just made, and bask in the happy. My job is to make sure you have as many moments of happy as humanly possible by handling the mini catastrophes for you.

I do lots of weddings.

This is a horrible fact of the wedding industry, but some nasty vendors out there give crappy service because they don’t think they need to impress you. You’re likely to only get married once, then they don’t have to deal with you again. However, they DO want to impress me, because I can recommend them to hundreds of thousands of dollars worth of potential new clients. The alternative is badmouthing them with my planner friends and doing my best to make sure they never get another wedding. Unlike some rating sites, the planning community doesn’t take bribes to remove bad reviews.

I keep your best interests in mind.

Caterer leave the venue a mess? I clean it up. Rental company forget the generator? That’s on me to fix. Table cloths have strange stains? I take pics so you get a refund, then chalk and hairspray the crap out of them to make them PURTY again. I hand out your final payments to vendors, so there are no detours on your way to wedded bliss. You are MY couple: your happiness is my goal in life.


The True Difference

Inspired by The Preppy Chic Blog

What is the difference between a “wedding planner” and “wedding coordinator”?

A wedding planner and wedding coordinator are essentially the same thing, the difference is between the role of a “day-of coordinator” and a planner.

A day-of coordinator usually begins services close to wedding date and after the couple has hired all their vendors and venue.  Her role is to be in charge of the actual wedding by managing all the details that the bride and groom have spent months planning to make sure that everything comes together in the end exactly as the couple imagined.  A coordinator allows the couple, wedding party and guests to enjoy their special day without the stress.  Think of a “day-of coordinator” as a general contractor or a symphony conductor.

A wedding planner goes beyond just the day-of the wedding.  A planner will work with the couple for up to a year before the big day helping with everything from design creation, budget management, stationary/invitations, vendor booking and suggestions, and contract negotiation or review along with coordinating everything the day of the wedding.  A wedding planner is there to help reduce stress by managing and organizing all the details from start to finish.  This is a great option for couples that want assurance that they are hiring reliable vendors and getting the most for their budget or have demanding busy lifestyles and schedules.

A wedding planner is there for YOU.  It’s YOUR day and YOU deserve the best!  A planner will not make decisions for you or take away the fun of planning, but she will be there to help you make informed decisions and to ensure that your plan is executed accordingly.

{Why Hire a Wedding Planner} I don’t need a wedding planner because….

… I can’t afford a planner.  It’s just not in my budget ~ Think about the amount of money you allocate to feeding your guests, hiring the photographer to take the perfect photos, picking a DJ that will get the party started, yet couples tend to skimp when it comes to hiring a planner that will orchestrate the whole day!  It’s like having a car and all the passengers but no driver (or GPS)!  So why stop at hiring the planner.  In reality a planner can SAVE YOU MONEY & TIME!  Planners have relationships with vendors and venues since they work on many weddings not just one, so they can give you economies of scale.  They can also help you put together a realistic budget.  In the end the money and time saved might be greater than the cost of the planner, so you basically got the planner for FREE!

… I have family and friends who have volunteered to help me day-of.  It should be fine! ~ While this is a nice gesture, unless your family member is a professional event planner, I’m pretty sure it won’t be fine.  They are your guests and should not be working on your wedding day.  They will be so preoccupied with socializing, drinking a little too much champagne, ooh’ing and ahh’ing over how beautiful you look, taking hundreds of photos, and not focused on the important details that make the event run smoothly.  They will not be informed on important decisions (i.e. telling the catering manager that although the bar tab has been exceed you insist the bride and groom said its fine to keep it open, leaving the couple with a few thousand dollars more to pay).

… The venue coordinator & catering manager assured me that I don’t need to hire a planner because they can handle it. ~ All I have to say is read Leila’s article above.  The bottom line: venue coordinators are there because they are hired by the venue to maintain and manage the venue only (i.e. food, rentals, staff, etc…).  They work for the venue and not for you.  Their main goal is to ensure the facility runs smoothly.  So if you arrive and all your flower arrangements are wrong and the guests can’t figure out where they are supposed to sit, don’t look at the venue coordinator to help you out because they won’t have any idea on what you wanted.

… Shouldn’t the vendors be able to manage themselves since they work weddings all the time? ~ According to feedback from vendors I have worked with, I have heard more times than not, there is a huge difference between a wedding with a planner vs. one without / with a venue coordinator.  Not only are the finishing touches and design usually better but also the flow of the event and communication between the parties (i.e. the photographer will be ready for photos and not out in the cocktail area when the DJ plays the song for the Grand Entrance because the coordinator will have given both a warning).  Although it’s your day, think about the vendors you have hired.  What will help make both your lives and their lives easier?  A wedding planner!

… I read all the magazines and blogs.  I have all the resources I need.  I don’t want a wedding planner to take away the fun of planning my wedding! ~ When you first get engaged, wedding planning is a novelty.  You buy every magazine and bookmark every blog out there to help plan your big day.  However, with hundreds of wedding blogs, magazines, photographers, videographers, venues, etc… it can get overwhelming and stressful trying to narrow down who/what is the best fit for your style, budget and needs.  Once the wedding comes the couple is so worn out with decisions that the process is no longer fun.  Wedding planners do this every day will help bring you the resources that best fit your needs to that you can ENJOY the planning process until the end!  They are educated and knowledgeable in all things wedding related from etiquette to getting a marriage license and are a huge accessible resource!

… My family & friends want to help me with the planning process ~ Except when your future mother-in-law has a completely different vision for her son’s wedding and your brother insists that his heavy metal band play a medley at your reception and your parents decide to invite all their friends as if it was their party.  Think “My Big Fat Greek Wedding.”  You need a MEDIATOR.  A planner is a good third-party mediator in tricky family situations.  It is impossible to please everyone; however, at least a planner can give an unbiased opinion to help navigate problems.


So in the end, a wedding planner/coordinator WILL:

  • Convert your vision into a reality
  • Guarantee that you make the most informed decision when signing a contract and hiring a vendor
  • Ensure that your special day runs smoothly ~ timeline management & troubleshooting
  • Manage vendors, guests & all the details
  • Help you SAVE MONEY
  • Be a resource of knowledge, a sounding board for decisions, a mediator, a therapist, and a stress reducer!


Send Usa Message Share onFacebook Tweet toTwitter Pin topinterest subscribeby email

Your email is never published or shared. Required fields are marked *