How many wedding invitations should I order?
Keep in mind that you are sending invitations to households, not individual guests. If you have 200 guests, you will not need to order 200 invitations. Families and married couples should receive one invitation, adults (friends/roommates) living in the same house should each receive their own invitation, and young adults over age 18 should receive their own invitation. Order 10-15 extra invitations in case of any last minute additions, returned invitations, etc.
I’m worried about spending too much on my invitations because my guests will just throw them away, so I’d rather get them really cheap. Is it a bad idea to order from Costco?
Your wedding invitation (or Save the Date card) sets the tone for your wedding. It tells your guests what they can expect– is it a formal affair where they should plan to wear black tie? Or maybe a casual beach wedding where shoes are discouraged? Will you have a lot of guests that will need to travel to the wedding? The invitation should get your friends and family excited about celebrating the start of your new life together. They are participating in such a beautiful experience, and it’s important the invitation reflects the event. That doesn’t mean you have to spend thousands of dollars on invitations. Just be aware that the flimsy paper and poor quality printing could send the wrong message and leave little to be excited about.
Where do I include registry information?
On your wedding website! If you don’t have a website, the best way to inform guests of your registry is word of mouth.
Some of my friends are in brand new relationships (and I haven’t met their new beau), or are single and want to bring a random date to my wedding. What do I do?
It’s important to think about each guest in question. Will your friend know other people at the wedding? Are they part of a group of friends who are all in serious relationships, and they will be the only single? Think about each persons comfort and allow them to bring a guest if there’s a chance they would feel uncomfortable being alone.
I love kids, but I really don’t want children at my wedding. Can we put “no children” on the invitation?
The traditional way to handle this is to simply exclude the children’s names on the invitation envelope. Guests should know only the names that appear on the envelope are those invited to the wedding. If you need to be more direct, you can say “Adult Reception to follow” on the invitation, or add a line to the Reply card that says “____ seats have been reserved in your honor” and fill in that first line based on how many guests in the household are invited. Be sure to let your family and friends know you prefer no children attend, and they can help spread the word. If you receive an RSVP with the children included (or any extra guest, for that matter), it’s perfectly acceptable to call the guest and politely let them know it will be an adult-only reception. You may want to consider childcare arrangements for out of town guests as this request could deter them from attending the wedding.
How many inserts do I need to include? I’d like to keep the cost down as much as possible, but there seems to be a lot of information to provide my guests (directions, a map, parking information, etc).
The idea with the invitation is to make the information as convenient as possible for your guests. These days, many couples ask for RSVP’s through their wedding website, which is also the place where they provide any and all information about the wedding (directions, parking info, information about pre/post-wedding events). If the majority of your guests are tech-savvy, then this seems perfectly acceptable. But there will always be those guests who will appreciate (and need) the printed information. Including an RSVP card is the best way to ensure a timely and accurate head count. You can save money here by sending a Reply postcard instead of a card with envelope. If your guests will be unfamiliar with the venue, or if there is anything tricky about getting there, it’s a great idea to provide a printed card with directions.
Can I send a pre-printed thank you note to my guests with a generic “thanks for the gift” message? I don’t love the idea of having to write 100+ cards!
People ask about this a lot! I know it sounds like a pain to write all those cards, but it’s the right thing to do. It’s can be a lot of effort to attend a wedding so it’s important each individual guest knows how grateful you are that they could attend. Be sure you send them in a timely manner, as well. If you wait too long, your guests may worry you never received their gift, or assume you have opted not to send thank you cards.
How much will postage cost? Do I have to apply postage to the RSVP cards?
This depends on the weight, thickness, and size of the invitation. Most invitations with more than 2 inserts usually requires a 2 ounce stamp. If the invitation is a square or large size, or contains anything that doesn’t allow the piece to bend easily (such as ribbon or a bow), you’ll be charged an additional .20. Always always always have a full sample weighed before purchasing and applying postage. And yes, please include postage on the RSVP card as a courtesy to your guests.
Do I need a custom designed invitation? I’ve seen several pre-designed invitations online that I like and could just order, but I’d rather work with a small, local business. Maybe you could just copy one of my favorites?
I truly appreciate that you want to work with a local business! However, custom invitations aren’t for everyone. I can’t and won’t ever copy an existing design. Most couples who hire me to design their invitations have searched high and low for the perfect invite, and just haven’t found it. Or they’ve found a few that they wish they could combine into one. That’s where I come in! I will take your ideas and create a suite that reflects your personalities and wedding. I spend a lot of time researching and getting to know you and the vision you have for your paper goods. This obviously takes much more time, so my prices will definitely be higher than pre-designed invitations. But you’re walking away with custom, commissioned artwork that was specially made for you.
Stationery: Paper Bloom Studio